Practicing Resilience

Practicing Resilience

PRACTICING RESILIENCE Practicing resilience is important for us to function in life with all the changes around us, which in this day and age seem to increase consistently and at a greater rate. Approaching the end of another year, I thought it might be an appropriate time to reflect on this topic. Resilience is the ability to face and handle life’s challenges, small or seemingly overwhelming ones, surprising ones and habitual ones. With it we can experience what we might label victories and when we lack resilience we might end up having meltdowns and setbacks. Some people are recovering fast from adversity, some become crippled by it and some spiral into deep depression. We might ask ourselves the following questions to explore and understand the choices we have: What is the secret to triumph over difficult experiences in life? Why do some people cave in when meeting their edges? Why do some let whatever is thrown at them stick? How long does one have to ruminate about an upsetting experience? How quickly does one recover from an argument? ¬†When do we feel helpless, resigned or give up easily? Can we move beyond surprises, betrayals, disappointments and paradoxes? The capacities to bounce back, resurface, integrate the experiences and then move on are innate and possible, yet difficult. To be resilient requires of us several qualities such as awareness, pausing to reflect, flexibility, stability and adaptability. We can use the five elements that are part of our bodies and the larger universe to illustrate these important themes: The earth element of stability and firmness The water element of fluidity, The fire...